I get a lot of emails from women who are frustrated with their husbands. These emails are almost always prefaced with a disclaimer about how great their husbands are. Then they go on to say all the ways their husbands let them down. We are living a cultural double standard, and it’s a recipe for frustration. […]


Why we lean back

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by Katrina on April 9, 2013

All right. I read it. The book that everyone, including my hero, Jon Stewart, has been talking about. So many reviews have been written about this book, that people have resorted to writing reviews of the reviews. The hype has been so incredibly, hyper—The Time story! The 60 Minutes piece! The banner ads! The web […]


Girls Rule.

by Katrina on November 15, 2012

Cross-posted on The Huffington Post Ladies, we are having a very good year. This election, a record number of women—binders and binders full of them—ran for office, and…best of all…won. In the new Congress, we will have 20 female Senators, up from 17. We will have the first openly gay senator, Tammy Baldwin, in Wisconsin. […]


It’s Time to Call a Truce to the Mommy Wars

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by Katrina on November 5, 2012

Every mother I know has felt judged, at one time or another, about her choice to work or not work, most often by other women. Stay-at-home moms are over-coddling and wasting their education. Full-time “career” moms are cold-hearted, reptilian women who care more about money and status than their own children. When we confess that […]


My advice to women who give advice to women

by Katrina on July 2, 2012

Cross-posted from The Huffington Post. By now, you’ve probably either read or read about Anne-Marie Slaughter’s Atlantic essay in which she recounts from personal experience why she believes women cannot “have it all” and calls on all of us to recognize the conditions that must change to make it possible for women to thrive in […]


The Atlantic magazine story

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by Katrina on June 22, 2012

I’m blown away by this essay: “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All.” Finally, someone is saying what’s true. The author, Anne-Marie Slaughter, was a high-powered working mom in Washington who stepped off her career fast track to be with her teenage children. Then she wrote an essay, which was published in The Atlantic, saying […]


The question is…Are they editor enough?

by Katrina on May 17, 2012

By now you’ve probably seen this TIME Magazine cover of the woman breastfeeding a child who looks about four (turns out he’s 3). It’s caused quite a sensation, in part because half this country thinks breastfeeding is disgusting (especially when the child is old enough to request seconds) and the other half thinks the first […]


A Care Revolution…in America?

by Katrina on February 9, 2012

I read The Second Shift more than a decade ago, when I was fresh out of graduate school, working at an Internet startup, newly married (to my first husband), and planning to have a child. That book scared the hell out of me. It was based on research conducted in the 1980s by the prize-winning […]


BlogHer? I barely know her.

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by Katrina on August 15, 2011

Last week I attended my first BlogHer conference, in San Diego. It was a trip. Thousands of women in cute summer dresses and shimmering lip gloss descended on the convention center ready to learn and network and maybe even pick up a new product sponsor. (Something about big groups of women makes me self-conscious about […]


Keep your foot on the gas pedal?

by Katrina on May 31, 2011

This is a provocative talk that Sheryl Sandberg (COO of Facebook) gave at the TEDWomen conference last year. If you haven’t seen it yet, definitely check it out. It’s about why we don’t have more women leaders. Some disturbing statistics: Of 190 heads of state, nine are women. Of all the people in parliament in […]