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It’s Time to Call a Truce to the Mommy Wars

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by Katrina on November 5, 2012

Every mother I know has felt judged, at one time or another, about her choice to work or not work, most often by other women. Stay-at-home moms are over-coddling and wasting their education. Full-time “career” moms are cold-hearted, reptilian women who care more about money and status than their own children. When we confess that […]


Moms turned inside out (Part II.)

by Katrina on September 29, 2010

This is a continuation of yesterday’s post. If you haven’t read it yet, start here. And now I give you four more amazing, successful, competent women, inside and out.* ‘O’—Stay-at-home mom “by choice” Outside: O. is the mother many of us hoped we would be. She takes great pleasure making beautiful things for others to […]


Letter from Tennessee

by Katrina on May 5, 2010

In the last few months I’ve gotten several emails from women (and men) who found the blog and wrote in with their own stories. I love reading these stories but rarely share them. This one from a woman named Tammy in Tennessee was particularly touching to me. I decided to share it with you (with […]


Book: “it sucked and then i cried”

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by Katrina on April 28, 2010

I have heard from dozens of women over the last year who had some version of a nervous breakdown while working and raising kids, or came very close to one. Some were already friends. Others I met through the blog. There are a lot of us out there. But so far, no one has written […]


Mothers and the rat race

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by Katrina on April 12, 2010

Do you ever feel like being a parent has turned you into an expert multitasker? It probably has. According to studies of mother rats…


Mommy doesn’t have a “job”

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by Katrina on March 17, 2010

When it was time for me to leave, Ruby ran up to her teacher and said, “Mrs. Thomas, can my mom stay until snack?”

“Sure…but I don’t know if she has time. She might have to get to work.” Very diplomatic, that Mrs. Thomas.

“Oh, she doesn’t have to go to work,” Ruby beamed mischievously. “My mommy doesn’t have a job!”


Bring on the radical homemakers

by Katrina on March 12, 2010

…At some point, of course, I realized I wasn’t happy. I was trapped. I had money, but not time. It was like being surrounded by food, and dying of thirst…It turns out that there is a way out of this mess. There are people all over this country–both women and men–who have made a conscious decision to value their time more than their money. Against the formidable current of popular culture, they have decided that this may be the only life they will ever have, and they’re going to live it fully.