Every mother I know has felt judged, at one time or another, about her choice to work or not work, most often by other women. Stay-at-home moms are over-coddling and wasting their education. Full-time “career” moms are cold-hearted, reptilian women who care more about money and status than their own children. When we confess that […]
I’m blown away by this essay: “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All.” Finally, someone is saying what’s true. The author, Anne-Marie Slaughter, was a high-powered working mom in Washington who stepped off her career fast track to be with her teenage children. Then she wrote an essay, which was published in The Atlantic, saying […]
Do you compare your insides to other people’s outsides? Most of us do, even though we know better. We’re social creatures. It’s natural to make comparisons. But we rarely get to glimpse other people’s insides. When we make our comparisons, we inevitably wind up comparing how we feel to how other people seem. This may […]
My first semester in grad school for journalism, more than a decade ago, was a shock. Boom! Right from the beginning we had daily story deadlines. Each of us desperately wanted to prove ourselves to be the next Edward R. Murrow. None of us knew what we were doing. We were awestruck by our professors, […]
Meet my Uncle Peter. He’s a really cool guy who happens to be an employee rights lawyer in New York and has talked with more than a thousand women and men about their work lives over the course of his career. He has a theory about why conditions are so difficult for working moms.
“Frankly,” Cheryl said, looking straight ahead at the sea of women milling about with their salads. “I think women whine too much.”
As soon as I heard this sweeping judgment leave her lips, somewhere deep within the dark and mildewed basement corner of my brain, I formulated a judgment about Cheryl…